It is when you and I dared to become a mommy. In my case, I did not know what I was getting myself into. I thought I did. Truth is I didn’t. I just had an idea of what I thought it was. So now that the little secret is out of the dark and exposed in the light (John 8:32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free). The only thing that came natural to me was to love and care for this little baby (mother nature, huh).
Entering motherhood turned my world upside right besides the fact that a tornado nearly hit the hospital I gave birth in, just imagine, my world literally would have been turned upside down. I believe that God’s timing is perfect. My baby girl came at the perfect time and so will yours or has.
Want to know what else came with my daughter besides the tornado, placenta, blood, water, vomit, and tears? Perfectionism. We met, we liked each other, and we got along. Up until it started affecting relationships all around me including the relationship I had with myself.
I wanted everything and everyone to be perfect. I was determined to become the best role model/mommy for my child. I was determined to give her the best around me, the best environment, and the best people. So I stayed at home, breastfed, went back to school, and started removing people who I thought were not good enough for my baby girl and myself out of my circle. We even moved away and didn’t tell anyone where we lived for almost two years. Up until I became pregnant with my second child, a beautiful baby boy.
Light at the end of the tunnel
By this time my views had changed (thank God). I had accepted that I am not anything near perfect. And that motherhood is hard. It is hard. It can be very challenging most of the time. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help.
My thirst for mommy knowledge
So with my baby girl here out in the world my life was now on a special purposeful mission. My purpose became clear as water to me. It was to become the best mommy/role model for this beautiful baby. I didn’t know how but I was determined to learn. My book collection grew, my visits to the library were more frequently, and YouTube alongside with Google became my new best friends.
At this point, your probably asking, “how did you not ask for help?!?” That’s an easy question. I was stubborn. I needed to prove to everyone and myself that I could handle motherhood, wifehood, and a homemaker. I didn’t see the little things I only kept seeing the big picture. I tried my hardest not to ask for help because I didn’t want people to think that I wasn’t ready to have a baby, or to start a family, or that I didn’t deserve to have a family because of my lack of knowledge and experience.
I was afraid of the criticism and judgement remarks of the ones closest to me. It hurt to see them redo the things I tried my hardest to learn to do. Like for example, swaddling my baby. As well as, someone close to me saying the day I came home from the hospital, “wow your house is really dirty.” Including, judging what I was eating instead of bringing the soup they said I should eat.
Dared to be
If you have dared to become a mom by nature or by choice, first I want to congratulate you for daring because it’s truly a worthy calling! And welcome to this Christ-follower family friendly blog for modern motherhood. Where we can together go through this journey called motherhood. A place to comment and learn from each other. A place to find humor and grace in the midst of this challenging journey. Using the life manual (bible) as our resource for foundation and principles.
WELCOME TO THE MOM DARE. I AM EXCITED FOR YOU TO BE HERE!
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